Let’s talk about gun control
We read on NBCNews.com that twenty-year-old Adam Lanza, after killing 20 small children and 6 adults, killed himself with a gun registered to his mother. His mother was found dead in the home he shared with her.
From a WordPress blog, this:
Some narcissistic mothers fixate on their son as a golden child and a psychological partner. The son of the narcissist is adored by the mother. Although there is no actual incestuous interaction between mother and son, the narcissistic mother can be provocative and psychologically seductive with this child. Learning from early childhood that he is the prince of the household, he feels superior and self entitled to do whatever he wants. The father is out of the picture and takes no significant role in the child’s development. The narcissistic mother has no interest in her spouse. The focus is on her special boy: his talents, charm, brilliance and superiority to everyone else. Early on the mother communicates to her son that he has no limits and is perfect. This boy knows from the time that he is very young that he is golden—adored and revered by his mother. The narcissistic mother often raises a narcissistic son, an individual she can turn to for validation and a special person on whom she can attach her grandiose dreams of worldly success and power. Mother’s adoration and psychological fusion come at a weighty price. Narcissistic sons of narcissistic mothers have great difficulty becoming real men. Mother has manipulated her child as an adored object. As a result the narcissistic son cannot have emotionally and psychologically intimate relationships with women. Many of these male narcissists detest women and are frightened of being emasculated by them. This is a painful psychological remnant of growing up being suffocated by mother and not allowed to develop a separate identity as a man. Although these narcissistic man can appear to be normal with spouses and families, they are going only through the motions, creating and sustaining an idealized image of spouse and father. Beneath the elaborate facade, the narcissistic son remains trapped in the psychological strangle hold of his narcissistic mother whom he now treats with cold contempt. Visit my website:www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewis, Ph.D.
We are witness, in this tragic shooting, to a narcissistic mother’s mentally infantile sons, out of control temper tantrum.
I’ve been mad enough to kill, but in control of my emotions. Mothers adore their sons, and millions possessively. We read that Adam had a history of mental illness. Even so, there is too much of this kind of thing going on to leave it at that.
We are very much aware of the growing irresponsibility of the American people. The reason: a codependency of people with their government.
The symptoms of codependency:
- Inability to know what “normal” is.
- Difficulty in following a project through.
- Difficulty having fun.
- Judging self, others without mercy.
- Low self esteem, often projected onto others.
(eg: Why don’t they get their act together!)
- Difficulty in developing or sustaining meaningful relationships.
- Belief that others cause or are responsible for the codependent’s emotions.
(Codependents often use language like “you make me feel ______”, or “I was made to feel like ____”)
- Overreacting to change. (or intense fear of / inability to deal with change.)
- Inability to see alternatives to situations, thus responding very impulsively.
- Constantly seeking approval and affirmation, yet having compromised sense of self.
- Feelings of being different.
- Confusion and sense of inadequacy.
- Being either super responsible or super irresponsible. (Or alternating between these.)
- Lack of self confidence in making decisions, no sense of power in making choices.
- Feeling of fear, insecurity, inadequacy, guilt, hurt, and shame which are denied.
- Isolation and fear of people, resentment of authority figures.
- Fear of anger or bottling anger up till it explodes.
- Hypersensitivity to criticism.
- Being addicted to excitement / drama. (Chaos making.)
- Dependency upon others and fear of abandonment.
- Avoidance of relationships to guard against abandonment fears.
- Confusion between love and pity.
- Tendency to look for “victims” to help.
- Rigidity and need to control.
- Lies, when it would be just as easy to tell the truth.
I refer you to “Let’s talk about cooking America’s goose,” and the comments.
We elect narcissistic, over-protecting politicians. We get unconstitutional government entitlement. We don’t need gun control—politicians in control of guns—themselves in control, with all the guns in the country aimed at us! Look at what Union thugs, encouraged by Obama, did in Lansing, Michigan. Big labor owns Obama! Then the hypocrite sheds tears over the shooting of little children. We need to return to constitutional government.
You folks are self-appointed to help me bring the American people to their senses.